If you fit into this category as I have done then you belong to the most targetted group for narcissists. Your caring nature can be targetted mixed with the likely lack of belonging you have due to the least common archetype. You are the easiest to be made to look a fool by the narcissist and be the object of their projected shame.
It's important to learn to grow to a healthy state of independence which may require professional support. If you are a highly senstive person the work of Elaine Aron can be amazingly helpful. Do a free Myers Briggs personality test online to help you to understand your character type and to embrace it and the innocent you which was underneath all the shame which was never yours to begin with.
By embracing these characteristics we can free ourselves by getting to grips with our own independent ego state. We can see what has happened to us more clearly and become freer of the past. We can pay attention to our dreams and often become more intuitive in the process. We notice that our ego states start to function together like cogs in a machine which generate power and we are able to reclaim our lost selves. Research into ego state theory and see how our many selves all function together. Work to build a compassionate relationship with all parts for maximum effectiveness in life.
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